Feeling overwhelmed by life? Don’t worry, you’re not the only one.
Let me tell you about last week.
From the 29th of March to the 1st of April, I was visiting family. It was lovely, but it was busy. What was originally going to be a weekend with my sister turned into all sorts of adventures. It was worth it but, by the time I got home on the Monday, I was exhausted.
As much as I love seeing my family, I get the worst case of homesickness when I’m back. It can last for between two days to two weeks. With that in mind, I took the decision to extend my blogging and social media break.
BUT life had other ideas. At least for the blogging side of things.
See, while I was away, the whole Pipdig disaster kicked off. The only thing I could do while I was away was update their plugin to remove the malicious code. I was keen to change my theme following those events so, on Tuesday, I made a start.
That, in itself, would have been plenty to keep me busy. Between trying to perfect the look of my site and updating my posts/ebook to remove recommendations of their products, I had plenty to do. However, in my infinite wisdom, I decided it would be a good time to restart my mailing list as well. Which begs the question, why am I like this?
Of course, nothing worked. Nothing looked how I wanted it to. A plugin which was fine with my previous theme completely ruined my new theme. My integration with my sign up forms wasn’t working. By Thursday evening, I was just about tearing my hair out and ready to call it quits.
Throw into the mix the fact I decided I wanted to eat healthier so I was in a constant state of hanger, PMS, the 20th anniversary of my Grandma’s death and a year since I was diagnosed with anxiety/depression, I just felt completely overwhelmed by life.
I realise these are mostly the very definition of “first world problems”, but it was such an intense week. In some respects, it’s my own fault, and I recognise that. I shouldn’t have pushed myself. Other things were just very inconvenient mishaps that I could have done without.
Here’s What I Do When I Feel Overwhelmed by Life:
1. Get Some Fresh Air.
On Wednesday, I had to go out to the shop. I didn’t really want to but I didn’t have a choice. It wasn’t the nicest day but I saw some dogs on my travels and got some air into my lungs so I felt better for it.
It’s very easy to become trapped in your own little bubble. You become so fixated on the problem you’re trying to fix that everything else goes out the window. Or, that’s certainly the case for me. Going outside is a good way to physically step out of the situation.
Oh, I do love a good cry! For me, it provides a great sense of relief. On Thursday afternoon, when I was convinced my head was about to explode, I stood up, walked away from my laptop, got into bed and cried. It was a short outburst – no more than 5 minutes at the most – but it felt good.
I wasn’t crying because I was sad, but because I was frustrated and fed up. I just needed a quick release of emotion so I could regain focus. Crying is one of the best ways for me to release some pressure.
3. Have a Treat.
My usual reaction to stressful situations is to go and buy the biggest bar of chocolate I can find then eat it all in one sitting. I don’t recommend that. And, given that I wanted to improve my diet, that was the last thing I should be doing. So, I went for the next best thing: a cup of tea.
You can have whatever you want but just press pause on everything to properly enjoy it!
This isn’t practical in all situations. If you’re feeling stressed at work, for example, I don’t think it would go down too well if you had a nap under your desk. Otherwise, I find it’s a good way to refresh your mind. Whether it’s having a nap or an early night, getting a little extra shuteye can give you a clearer perspective.
The only thing I needed to do last week was change my theme. It didn’t even necessarily have to be perfect. It just needed to be something else.
Instead, this was my week:
- Changed theme and tweaked it until I was 98% happy with it.
- Updated posts and ebook to remove recommendations for Pipdig.
- Wrote two blog posts.
- Finished updating pins for popular posts.
- Stressed about domain/hosting renewal costs.
- Set up Tailwind queue for the week.
- Integrated mailing list sign up forms.
- Created a welcome email for subscribers.
- Added a resource library for subscribers.
- Created 3 resources for said library and started a 4th.
Cried a lot. Contemplated giving up blogging.
Some of this stuff needed to be done. The majority of it, though, did not.
There was absolutely no need for me to restart my mailing list at that specific point in time. None whatsoever. If I hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t have felt the need to create a welcome email or resource library, either. Updating my pins could have waited, too. Happy as I am to know it’s done, these things were not a priority. Especially not for a week when I was “taking a break”. I only have myself to blame there.
If you feel you have too much going on, take a look at what needs to be done. Focus on those things and put everything else off until a more suitable time.
6. Talk to Someone.
I do feel a little hypocritical here. I’m always one to talk about things after the fact. It’s much better to discuss how you feel before you get to that overwhelmed state or during it.
If you’re the same as me, though, I’d still recommend talking about it – even if you think it’s all over and done with. Things were mostly resolved by the time I spoke to Neal. All the same, it felt good to acknowledge how I felt. Sometimes, it’s good just to say “this has been a stressful week” and have a natter about it.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by life consistently or on a regular basis, it could be an idea to contact your GP or one of these mental health organisations.