INFJ Personality: Pros And Cons

INFJ Personality: Pros And Cons


Some time before Christmas, I discovered I have an INFJ personality type. If you’ve seen letter combinations like this floating around on the internet and have no idea what they mean, they are personality types, based on the work of Katharine Briggs and Isabel Myers. There’s a lot more information on the Wikipedia page.

If you’d like to discover your own, you can do a free test on

INFJ – also referred to as “The Advocate” – is one of the rarer personality types in general life, but seems to be a common type amongst bloggers and other creatives. The letters stand for Introversion (I), Intuition (N), Feeling (F), Judgment (J).

Upon reading about this personality type, I was in disbelief at how accurate it was for me. I thought I’d discuss some of the characteristics, how they relate to my life and what I consider to be the pros and cons.

INFJ Personality: Pros

1. I’m insightful.

I tend not to see things at face value. I am a deep thinker and like to go beyond what is on the surface. Exploring the depths of my own mind as well as the various of angles of situations means my responses tend to be more in-depth than others. I feel that some of my blog posts about mental health, such as this one about workplace mental health, definitely showcase this side of me.

2. I’m passionate.

When I believe in something, I will stand strong in that belief. Though I can be quiet and introverted, it’s difficult for me to keep my opinions to myself – particularly if I feel there is a sense of injustice. I do not like to witness others being treated unfairly, and will speak up if I feel compelled to do so.

3. I’m altruistic.

As mentioned in the context of point 2, I feel uncomfortable when I perceive things to be unfair, but more so when this is on a larger scale than just myself. The actions I take tend to stem from the idea that what I am doing is for the greater good, rather than self-serving.

4. I’m in good company.

Other individuals with an INFJ personality include Martin Luther King, Nelson Mandela and Mother Teresa. What I love about this is that these are all individuals who are known for their caring nature, and passion for serving their people.

5. I love deeply.

When it comes to relationships, I take them very seriously. When I love someone, I love them completely and unconditionally. This does have its downside in the sense that it’s very hard for me to recover from heartbreak, but it’s a quality I’m proud to have.

6. I’m loyal.

It’s hard to get to know me properly, but because it takes so much for me to trust someone, when I finally make that leap, I’ll be a friend for life. As it can take a lot of work to find people I truly connect with, I don’t want to lose them!

7. I’m creative.

Being able to express myself in creative ways makes me very happy! As an introvert, it’s important for me to recharge after spending a lot of time around others, and creative activities are one of my favourite ways to do this. I believe my talent for writing is entwined with my INFJ personality, so I love it for that.

Flower with notebook and tea

INFJ Personality: Cons

1. I’m highly sensitive.

Being challenged or coming up against criticism is very difficult for me. I have a tendency to become defensive, or take it to heart – even when it’s constructive. This makes situations like performance reviews, where feedback is an integral part of the process, quite difficult.

2. I’m very private.

I’d consider this to only be a partial con. It’s tricky because it means making friends and letting people in is extremely hard. I have barriers in place to protect myself, and it takes a long time for me to open up and reveal the full extent of my personality to others. Though this is a negative, I believe my guarded nature has protected me on occasions, too.

3. I’m a perfectionist.

Again, it’s difficult for me to consider this purely a con. My perfectionist nature means I do any task to the best of my ability, and generally produce a high standard of work. Fellow perfectionists will be very aware of how exhausting it can be, though. It definitely makes you more susceptible to burning out. Life isn’t always smooth sailing, and I become irritable if things aren’t going the way I want them to. It also means my standards can be out of reach and I abandon things that don’t live up to them.

4. I can be extremely stubborn.

My strong sense of morality can mean I refuse to budge on certain topics. If I am completely convinced that I am in the right, I struggle to compromise. No matter how well-intentioned my motives may be, my stubbornness can cause plenty of problems.

5. It’s hard to find job satisfaction in traditional roles.

My desire to do something which lines up with my own morals, has a positive impact on the lives of others and provides a creative outlet means I am not well suited to certain job types. It’s not impossible for me to work in those environments, but it’s likely that I will be unhappy in doing so. This explains why retail was so unfulfilling, and why blogging ticks so many boxes.

6. I’m altruistic… often at my own expense.

I had to put this in the cons section as well because, being an INFJ, I get caught up in looking after others and often forget to look after myself. My determination to take care of those around me sometimes comes at the cost of my own well-being.

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  • Cordelia Moor 23rd January 2019 at 11:49 am

    I love this! I love a myers-brigg test – personally am an INFP, or mediator type (true idealists, most mediator types tend to be writers, poets and actors) – and find this all SO fascinating. It’s ridiculous almost how an online test dreamt up by some scientists (or however it came about) can be so accurate to your personality. I’m mostly happy to not only share a birthday with old Billy Shakespeare, but also a personality type! Maybe life is trying to tell me something….

    Cordelia ||

    • ruthinrevolt 24th January 2019 at 9:49 am

      It is crazy how spot on it is. It blew my little mind! But yes, I feel like the universe is telling you to WRITE ALL THE THINGS and I agree with the universe.

  • Lisa McLachlan 23rd January 2019 at 7:42 pm

    I’ve heard so much about Myers-Briggs but I’ve never got around to taking a test myself. Your post and the way you feel about pros and cons was really interesting. I feel exactly the same way as you about constructive criticism and it’s taken me many years to learn not to take things personally – well, I’m still trying, so it’s a work in progress, haha. I’ve bookmarked the 16 Personalities website (thank you) so I have no more excuses not to give it a go now 🙂 xx

    Lisa |

    • ruthinrevolt 24th January 2019 at 9:50 am

      Yay! I’d love to know what result you get once you have chance to complete it. The analysis from 16 Personalities is really in depth, and I think you’ll be fascinated by how accurate it is.

  • David Anderson 23rd January 2019 at 8:51 pm

    As your dad I can second everyone of those pros and cons – it has reflected ‘you’ very well. As you know I am a great fan of Myers Briggs and its great value on helping people understand and ascribe meaningful lables to their personality and how they relate to others and the wider world around them. I’m sure this post will encourage others to explore their personalities through Myers Briggs and find ways to grow and mature.

    • ruthinrevolt 24th January 2019 at 9:52 am

      Thanks Dad. It definitely provides a great insight into our characteristics, and certainly helped me to have a better understanding of how that impacts my daily life!

  • Bexa 24th January 2019 at 1:29 pm

    Wow, as I read this post I thought oh my gosh it is meee!! I just did the test to see what mine came out as and yep, I also got INFJ with introversion being at 85%. It’s amazing how accurate this test is, especially the part about corporate career paths are not designed for us and we are often drawn to careers in writing, photography, design and art. How true is that, blogging is every single one of them! This is really insightful and fascinating and explains so much! 🙂 thanks for sharing Ruth! <3 xxx

    Bexa |

  • Sarah 24th January 2019 at 4:23 pm

    Fellow INFJ here as well! I tend to go back to this description ( from time to time, because it’s deeply detailed and I discover things about myself in it that allowed me to be able to accept certain parts of myself. I was often called bi-polar in high school, because I was both outgoing and a loner (not what bi-polar means, but that’s what they thought). Then I read this:

    INFJs are deeply concerned about their relations with individuals as well as the state of humanity at large. They are, in fact, sometimes mistaken for extroverts because they appear so outgoing and are so genuinely interested in people — a product of the Feeling function they most readily show to the world.

    I realized that, yes, I am both outgoing and a loner. And that’s ok, because that’s me. Now when I tell people, “I’m an INFJ, so I’m both an extrovert and an introvert,” they don’t bother me (probably because they have no idea what I’m talking about :P).

    Great post! I love reading how different people perceive this rare and fascinating personality type. We all seem to see things the same way, but I also love seeing the differences.

  • Jess 27th January 2019 at 2:53 am

    I love Myers-Briggs test (I’m INFP) out of all the personality tests I’ve taken over the years I found that this one got my personality more accurate!

    Jess xxx ||

  • Melissa 4th February 2019 at 6:05 pm

    I was so excited to see this post on your blog! I actually took the test again last week to see if my result would change (I think the last time I took it was in high school), but I am still an INFJ! I relate to all of the pros and cons you listed; I feel like the INFJ personality fits me well. It sometimes feels like an odd mix of traits (like being very passionate and altruistic, yet still a very private and reserved person), but I like being an INFJ.
    I can also relate to having a hard time finding satisfaction in typical corporate jobs-I’m currently trying to settle in a career, but I’m having a hard time finding one that’s purposeful and meaningful enough for me. I’m sure I’ll figure something out though. I’m glad blogging has been a better career fit for you than retail though!

    Melissa //

    • ruthinrevolt 5th February 2019 at 8:55 am

      Aww, yay for fellow INFJs! I like it, too, and I feel like the good outweighs the bad.

      I think it’s particularly tricky with jobs because other personality types don’t share the same ideals about it having a purpose or meaning, so it’s hard to get them to understand sometimes. Good luck finding the right career for you! I know you’ll get there, and there’s nothing wrong with trying a few things out in the meantime.

  • Emma 5th February 2019 at 7:56 pm

    So fun. I was an ISFJ-T when I took this the other day, but depending on the day/test the S is sometimes an N and the F is sometimes T and they’re always a close split at 51/49. I’ll blame it on being a Gemini. ;). Isn’t it fun reading these descriptions?

  • Laura 9th February 2019 at 5:28 pm

    As a fellow INFJ, I feel like this post is spot on!

    Laura ||

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