That One Little Word [Guest Post By Elle]

That One Little Word [Guest Post By Elle]

I was so delighted with the content I received as guest posts that I decided to continue accepting them this year! I’m so excited to read and share more.

The first one is from Elle, who is new on the blogging scene, but clearly very talented. If you enjoy her contribution, be sure to let her know, and support her going forward!

The hustle and bustle of everyday life can be exhausting, daunting, and downright stressful most of the time. Thinking of the things that need to get done in that day, or in that hour, or in that minute can be enough to make someone’s head spin. Add a mental health issue into the mix, and you have yourself a recipe for a breakdown. How do I know? Because it happened.

In January of 2016, I suffered through a period of intense mental and emotional distress. Call it a nervous breakdown, a mental breakdown, whatever you want. It felt like my depression and anxiety was getting the best of me. Getting out of bed to go to work felt like an impossible task. Socializing with people was exhausting. Doing my day to day tasks like washing dishes, doing laundry, or cooking dinner seemed daunting and near impossible. If it couldn’t be done from my bed, I didn’t and couldn’t do it.

The day that I broke down in my therapist’s office was a turning point for me.

It was the first time I had felt my life spiraling so out of control. It was the first time I felt truly and completely helpless and pointless. I felt that I didn’t matter. The thoughts I had were scary and the feelings were so real. My mind was turning against me. My therapist had to call my sister to come pick me up, and she took me to an emergency appointment with my psychiatrist to get my medication evaluated

From that day on, my therapist has been working with me on positive self-talk and positive self-image. One of the most important and helpful things I have learned through this process is to change my thinking a little bit. Instead of saying or thinking “I have to go to the gym” or “I have to go grocery shopping”, I’ve changed the “I have to” to “I get to”. I GET to go to the gym. I GET to go grocery shopping.

That one simple, tiny change makes a difference, at least in my mind.

It reminds me that while I have responsibilities and obligations, I am lucky to have them. I am lucky that my body is healthy enough to get me through a work out. I am lucky that I have the money to go grocery shopping without worrying about spending too much. I’m lucky that I have a career and lifestyle that permits me to “have to” do things sometimes.

Doing things like going out in social settings is still hard for me at times, but I have to remember – I GET to see my friends. I GET to have a nice meal and some drinks. Changing those two words helps to change my thinking and helps me to realize that just because I HAVE to do something, doesn’t mean it needs to be unpleasant. So often we gripe about our responsibilities and the things we have to do, but we are blessed to have these obligations, because it means our lives are so enriched.

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  1. 11th January 2019 / 11:09 am

    This is such a lovely, darling post! It’s amazing what changing one small aspect of your thinking can do for your mental state. Words hold such power, and it’s times like this that really shines through. And on that note, now I get to eat a cadbury’s caramel egg…

  2. 11th January 2019 / 11:37 am

    This was really well written and thought provoking. I never thought about it and I probably use “I have to do this” all the time but saying “you get to do it” really changes the outlook on something. I really like it!! So thank you. 💕

  3. 12th January 2019 / 7:30 pm

    Love this! Positive self talk is so important

  4. 13th January 2019 / 1:26 am

    So excited to have my writing posted on here! Thanks to those who posted those sweet comments!

  5. 14th January 2019 / 2:39 pm

    Elle, this is lovely. I don’t mean your breakdown, obviously, but what you’ve taken from it and your approach to life now. It may seem like semantics but I truly believe in the power of words: changing from “have to” to “get to” shifts the mindset from duty to choice. It’s brilliant. Simple but empowering. Thank you so much for sharing this, and to Ruth for hosting your piece. xx

    Lisa |

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