Positivity for Beginners [Guest Post by Carly]

Positivity for Beginners [Guest Post by Carly]

There’s a lot of talk about positivity, but where do you even start? Carly’s got you covered in today’s post, Positivity for Beginners. We’re going back to basics with steps you can take for a more positive life. She’s got some great tips to set you on the right track.

I am a massive fan of positivity so thank you to Ruth for coming up with this great idea! It’s nice to read different people’s interpretation on “Positivity” and what makes them feel that way.

I haven’t always been the positive person I am today and don’t get me wrong, I still have down days but I am usually able to pull myself out of a slump quite quickly. I do think of myself as a positive person and I’m a believer in Karma and that everything happens for a reason.

I’ve been through some dark times in my life which I haven’t felt able to blog about, mainly because I really feel like I’m in a good place mentally now and I don’t think revisiting dark times will help me. Thinking positively has definitely helped me when times get tough now.

These are my top tips for positive thinking for beginners!

1) Bad times are a experience to learn from.

Even when you’re going through a tough time, keep it in the back of your mind that you will learn from this. Whether you’re having money issues or relationship problems you will learn something. The lesson may not be obvious at the time but one day you will look back and see it.

2) Make “you” time.

Having a little bit of breathing space from everything for even 10 minutes is a great way to help with positivity. Go for a run, take a bath, meditate, do whatever you need to do to give your brain chance to rest. Clear your head and relax.

3) Smile

It may sound stupid but smiling, even if you don’t feel like it, is a great way to lift your mood. A smile can spread too so you never know, it could also change a complete stranger’s mood.

4) Cut down on negative social media.

I find Facebook is the worst for negativity for me so I don’t spend much time on it whereas Twitter and Instagram are mostly positive. All social media seems to have the same algorithm so it shows the things you interact with the most first. If you only “like” positive posts then you are mostly going to see positive posts. You can also Unfollow accounts on Facebook without removing people completely so if you have people that are consistently negative on your timeline but you can’t bring yourself to unfriend them, just unfollow instead.

5) Be kind to others

Being nice to other people, paying genuine compliments or helping someone do something they struggle with can help you too. Seeing them happy will make you feel happier. We have a great community of Bloggers on Twitter who read each others posts and spread nothing but love. I thoroughly enjoy interacting with these people and complimenting their writing genuinely makes me feel more positive.


I really hope that these little tips can help you on your journey to finding positivity. Starting with these can lead into bigger things such as self-love and confidence. You will eventually work out your own ways of feeling more positive and pull yourself through tough times too.

Of course, these tips won’t work for everyone, in which case I’d suggest talking to a professional. Your GP can help or contact MIND who are a fantastic mental health charity who can point you in the right direction for support. Never be afraid to ask for help.

Sending positive vibes.

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Positivity for Beginners

Before you go… make sure you read Glenn’s guest post from last week about his journey to securing a publishing deal!


  1. 14th September 2018 / 5:57 pm

    Absolutely love this post Carly! It’s such an uplifting and feel-good read. I definitely agree with everything you mentioned here. Me time is so important, it’s like pressing a reset button when life get overwhelming and stressful. That’s such a great point about avoiding negativity on social media as it can get really draining at times. Twitter is my happy place too as it’s mostly positive and everyone is so kind & supportive. Thank you for sharing! Also, just wanted to say I LOVE your new blog design Ruth, the colours are so vibrant & cheerful and suits you perfectly <3 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • ruthinrevolt
      15th September 2018 / 12:44 pm

      Awww, thank you, Bexa! 😍💛 I’m so glad you like it. Although, I suspected you might appreciate it, given our shared love of anything colourful! xx

  2. 14th September 2018 / 6:38 pm

    Well done Carly on learning from your experiences and thank you for the tips and advice. I will be taking some of them onboard as one of my month goals is to combat my anxiety and I think some of these will help. I think your point on being kind to people is spot on, this way we could all learn a lot from one another.
    Kate x

  3. 15th September 2018 / 6:30 am

    Thank you. This is a great reminder that sometimes, in difficult times, we need to actually work at being positive. It comes naturally when life is easy and things are going well; less so when we face problems. Having strategies like these to fall back on is really helpful.

  4. 15th September 2018 / 8:00 am

    Absolutely amazing post and something we can all do with learning. I for one will be taking this all on board today.

  5. 15th September 2018 / 5:12 pm

    Thank you Carly for the tips and advice, they’re really useful! I love your point about learning from bad experiences, as I tend too often to fixate on them and should probably work on turning them into positive energy for my future. And obviously kindness is a big one – makes everyone feel better.

    Megan // https://www.pixieskiesblog.wordpress.com

  6. Andrea
    16th September 2018 / 3:18 am

    Great post! Keep spreading Joy and positivity. Our world needs more of this.

  7. 16th September 2018 / 10:46 pm

    This is a great post. I’m trying to learn from rather than dwell on my bad experiences, no matter how small. I’m trying to draw a line under them and schedule any worries for my “worry time”, which I’ve been covering in my CBT recently. It seems to be helping.

    I believe you should treat others how you wish to be treated, so kindness is definitely a positive trait.

  8. 19th September 2018 / 6:06 pm

    Great post Carly! Everyone knows I can’t get enough positivity – and your post was no exception – LOVE IT!
    Ruth, I love the new blog design – so crisp and clear and inspiring all at the same time.
    Now I’m off to go find some “me time” in my garden, smiling the whole time!

  9. 30th September 2018 / 8:35 pm

    This is such a lovely post Carly! So well written. I love some me time and try to take some time away from social media also! Xx

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