How to put yourself out there as a blogger

How to put yourself out there as a blogger

It can be hard to put yourself out there as a blogger, especially when you’re just starting out. It’s something I struggled with a lot at the start. I’d love to say I’m over it and life’s a breeze, but I do still find it hard.

Why do you need to put yourself out there as a blogger?

When it comes to blogging, you need to develop a certain level of comfort in making the first move. This is important to build relationships with other bloggers and, of course, to approach brands.

As I mentioned in this post, I don’t think most of us start blogging because we want our work to sit on the internet, gathering dust. We want it to be seen, and we want to connect. To make that happen, you need to do some work.

The blogging community is amazing. They will welcome you, but they need to know where to find you. This involves you putting yourself forward. If you want to find your tribe, you’ve got to let them know you’re there.

In an ideal world, your inbox would be bursting with opportunities from brands. In the real world, you often have to take the leap. Approaching brands feels intimidating, but can be very rewarding! As the saying goes, “stop thinking about what could go wrong, and think about what could go right.”

I know, that’s much easier said than done. Truthfully, this is an area of weakness of mine, and something I hope to work on in the coming months.

Why is it so hard to put yourself out there as a blogger?

From the outside, it looks terrifying. There’s a huge community of bloggers, and finding your place in that seems impossible. But, I promise you, it’s not.

It all comes down to the fear of rejection, both of ourselves and of our work. There is always a chance we will be ignored. Equally, there’s a chance people won’t like what you create. You’re creating content which you’re enthusiastic about, but what if others don’t feel the same?

It’s hard to get past that, because nobody wants to have something they’re proud of come up against criticism. There’s no easy fix, but there are some things you can try…

So, how can you put yourself out there as a blogger?

Remember why you started blogging.

Keep your goal in mind at all times.

If it’s genuinely an outlet for yourself, then why does it matter? Keep writing for you!

If, however, you want to reach an audience, you need to do the work to build one. When it comes to interacting with other bloggers, take little steps. I started by seeking out other bloggers and replying to a few of them each day.

Follow people first. Keep an eye out for questions you can answer. Let other bloggers know if you’ve liked their post. Share their work. Ask questions. All of these are little ways you can give them a little wave and say “hey, I’m here.”

If the direct approach makes you feel uneasy, try Twitter chats (more about them here). The reason I suggest this is it’s an opportunity to put yourself out there, in a more general sense. There are questions put forward for you to respond to. Others will see your responses and often interact with you on that basis.

Similarly, you can see other people’s responses so there are opportunities to approach them. They are involved in a Twitter chat because they want to network and interact. Keeping that in mind makes it a little less scary to send them a reply.

Keep things in perspective.

I recently had a discussion with my counsellor about not letting one negative comment take away from the positive ones. So, if you’ve had lots of people saying they like your blog, then one person is unpleasant, do your best to let it go.

If you’re very new, you may not have had any feedback yet. In this case, you need to stand strong and firm in your beliefs about your own work. You took the time to create it and to publish it on a public platform. Be proud of it.

As things stand, all of these other bloggers are strangers on the internet. They have the potential to become your friends but, if they don’t, what have you lost? Not a great deal. There are still plenty of others to approach!

Accept the fact not everyone is going to be a fan of your work.

I was absolutely heartbroken when I received my first nasty message. Picking myself up and carrying on was tough, but I had to remind myself I can’t please everyone. Nobody can.

This is an unavoidable truth. There will be people who adore your blog, and others who don’t. It’s the same with anything in life. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. Try not to take it to heart.

Don’t be too hard on yourself.

Miracles aren’t going to happen overnight. Go at your own pace. There will be days when you don’t feel up to putting yourself out there. That’s okay! Use those days to focus on creating and improving your content.

Pushing yourself too much results in you feeling overwhelmed. You need to give yourself gentle nudges.

It might feel like you’re the only one struggling sometimes, but you’re not. A lot of bloggers experience this. Others might make it look easy, but we know how hard it can be.

Be resilient and don’t give up.

I’m not going to sugarcoat it. You will get ignored sometimes. I did, and still do. Don’t give up! You will also get some lovely responses, and your confidence will grow.

In terms of working with brands, it’s a similar situation. You have to be resilient. There will brands which reject you, some who ignore you and some who will be keen to work with you. It’s a mixed bag. If you want the highs, you’re going to have to tackle the lows.

As I said at the start, my experience in working with brands is almost non-existent. I don’t want to pretend I’ve got it all figured out when I have no idea so I’m going to direct you to these posts for some useful tips!

HOW TO MONETISE YOUR BLOG & SOCIAL MEDIA II: WORKING WITH BRANDS

How I Secured 1000% More Brand Collaborations In Just One Month

HOW TO LAND BRAND DEALS + GAIN FOLLOWERS WITH YOUR ELEVATOR PITCH

You can do this.

How to put yourself out there as a blogger

59 Comments

  1. 20th August 2018 / 11:06 am

    Once again a wonderful post 🙂 such great tips and things to think about. I think fear is something that often gets in the way. We all need reminding that we can do it if we just let ourselves push past what’s holding us back 🙂

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      20th August 2018 / 12:05 pm

      Thank you, Menna! 🙂 I agree. Fear has stopped me doing so many things in my life, so it feels like such a win when I break through the barrier.

  2. 20th August 2018 / 11:29 am

    Ah, I absolutely loved this post! These are really things that I should keep in mind more often, I tend to think too negative sometimes which results in procastinating, meaning that I sometimes go with not writing in months. I do love blogging, but I worry too much about what people will think. This post made me realise I shouldn’t, after all I do this for myself. Thank you for the motivation!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      20th August 2018 / 12:04 pm

      You’re very welcome, Chloe! I 100% understand where you’re coming from. It still trips me up some days. ❤️

  3. 20th August 2018 / 12:52 pm

    Aw, Ruth, I loved reading this! You are absolutely right, we need to remember to write for ourselves, everything else is the icing on the cake where brands are concerned. It’s not why I started blogging and I still pinch myself frequently over why anyone would want to work with me. And I struggle to put myself out there (as you put it) because I’m quite shy and I worry about rejection. But that’s something I need to work on because my experience in blogosphere has been so positive to date so I want to try harder to engage and connect more. Work and family life permitting, of course. Sorry for the ramble, I just wanted to let you know how much I love your supportive posts 🙂 xx

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:53 pm

      Aww, I think anyone would be lucky to work with you, Lisa! You’re a brilliant blogger and a wonderful person! 😊 I definitely understand being shy and scared of rejection, though. I worry about that a lot, too. But, then, when it comes to blogging, it’s done online so I try to reassure myself by saying at least I won’t have to face them! Thank you for such a lovely comment, Lisa xx

  4. 20th August 2018 / 4:53 pm

    Another fantastic post Ruth! I’m always nodding in agreement whenever I read your blog. I love the line: stop thinking about what could go wrong, and think about what could go right. That’s the absolute best attitude to have. I was nervous about applying for opportunities at the beginning and I’ve been ignored quite a few times too, but like you say, we just gotta keep putting ourselves out there. Also, I love how we have both used BlogBox props in our blog photos today. Fab post girl, thank you for sharing, I’m off to check out those links too! 💖 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:50 pm

      Exactly and I bet, even though you’ve been ignored sometimes, you’ve also been able to do things you didn’t think you would! Thanks Bexa! xx

  5. 20th August 2018 / 6:27 pm

    Great post, Ruth. I love how helpful all of your posts are. I have gotten so much good advice from your blog and it’s made my blogging life better!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:49 pm

      That makes me so happy. Thank you, Sarah!

  6. 20th August 2018 / 7:48 pm

    Great post! It’s really reassuring and motivaring to read this! As I just started, I didn’t get a naughty comment yet (but I know it will come) but now I fell more ready to leave it behind!

    Thank you for sharing! !

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:49 pm

      No problem at all! 🙂

  7. 20th August 2018 / 9:44 pm

    Ah love this, I will totally be having this as one of those posts I read again and again when I’m feeling doubtful about it all. X

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:49 pm

      Yay! Thanks!

  8. 20th August 2018 / 10:57 pm

    This is such a lovely positive post Ruth 😀 You’re posts are so motivational and inspirational 💕

    Louise

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:48 pm

      Aww, thank you, Louise! 🙂

  9. Bola
    20th August 2018 / 11:59 pm

    Great post. This is helpful, it’s good to know that I am not alone, and useful to know that there are strategies that I can adopt to overcome my fears. Thank you Ruth!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:47 pm

      You’re very welcome and good luck!

  10. 21st August 2018 / 12:58 am

    Ruth, you’re a great example of how to bravely navigate social media as a blogger. Your advice is always spot on. I appreciate your willingness to share what works for you and your positivity. I think I’ll try Twitter chats next! Thanks for sharing!
    strugglingwithserendipity.com/blog

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:47 pm

      Aww, thank you very much, Cindy!

  11. 21st August 2018 / 8:24 am

    Great post, I will definitely try the twitter chat and be more confident when I want to publish a post.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:47 pm

      That’s great!

  12. 21st August 2018 / 9:52 am

    I find that the fun thing about putting myself out there – once I’ve gotten past the crippling fear of people not liking my content – is that I not only gain more readers, but I also find so many cool people, and cool content. It’s a two way street, and I bloody love it

    Cordelia || cordeliamoor.com

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      21st August 2018 / 2:47 pm

      I agree! It’s worth while, even if it’s a little tricky to begin with.

  13. 21st August 2018 / 5:13 pm

    I definitely agree with you. As a blogger it’s important to get yourself out there and make yourself known both in the community and with brands. They’re not going to be bashing your door down, at least not at first, so we need to take the first step (or ten) and approach them.

    Nicola
    http://nicshealthylife.co.uk

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      22nd August 2018 / 9:17 am

      Absolutely!

  14. 21st August 2018 / 7:11 pm

    I really needed to hear this today. Especially the part about being resilient and not giving up. Sometimes we all need this reminder. Blogging is a lot more hard going than people think. Thank you for sharing it! 💖

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      22nd August 2018 / 9:15 am

      My pleasure, beautiful!

  15. 21st August 2018 / 7:42 pm

    Thanks for sharing this! I’m a newer (smaller!) blogger and it’s helpful to read posts like this. I’ll get there! Just gotta keep at it. 🙂

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      22nd August 2018 / 9:15 am

      Definitely – stick with it!! 😀

  16. 21st August 2018 / 9:08 pm

    Fantastic post, very reassuring to not give up and keep trying 🙂 Thanks Ruth.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      22nd August 2018 / 9:16 am

      No problem! 🙂

  17. 21st August 2018 / 9:13 pm

    It’s a tough one how much of yourself you can actually give away before old wounds come to haunt you lol great post xx

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      22nd August 2018 / 9:17 am

      That’s definitely true xx

  18. 21st August 2018 / 11:43 pm

    I found this very reassuring. Thank you.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      22nd August 2018 / 9:17 am

      Glad it helped! ❤️

  19. 21st August 2018 / 11:53 pm

    Such a great post! I love it, makes me have more faith in myself again to not give up. Also I love the bit where you spoke to your counsellor about one negative thing takeaway all the positive things, it’s such a great point!💞

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      22nd August 2018 / 9:18 am

      I’m glad – you definitely shouldn’t give up! You’re great!! ❤️

  20. 22nd August 2018 / 10:43 am

    Ah I loved this!! I don’t know what but while reading this something clicked. Like why not just write to brands you love about collaborations? Its not going to cause any harm. I dont know why I never really thought of it before!! Thank you so much for this post Ruth!! xx

    http://zoe-ware.com

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      22nd August 2018 / 1:11 pm

      Awww, yay!! Good luck and you’re welcome! x

  21. 22nd August 2018 / 10:02 pm

    Great post lovely… As usual! Wise words and great advice. x

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      23rd August 2018 / 10:25 am

      Thank you, beautiful! x

  22. 24th August 2018 / 1:23 am

    Great post, and advice. It’s just what any of us need to keep in mind and be reminded of in this journey. I like how you touch on it’s a process of figuring things out, but can start with connecting with others on social media, and putting yourself out there. A process that has helped me both feel less alone in this and gain valuable insights, such as what you shared here, from others.

    Also really impressed with your blog and writing, so I’m happy to have stumbled on you and it, and will be following along more in your journey.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      24th August 2018 / 10:34 am

      Thank you very much! I really appreciate your kind comment.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th August 2018 / 10:13 am

      No problem! Glad you found it helpful 😀

  23. 27th August 2018 / 5:38 am

    Every once in a while you come across great content such as this 🙂 I’m a really introverted person who started a blog but couldn’t bring myself out there. Your post has given me some wonderful insights and I’ll be putting this into practice. You are awesome!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th August 2018 / 10:13 am

      Awww, that’s brilliant! 😀

  24. 28th August 2018 / 8:32 am

    Thanks for linking to my blog post <3

    I totally agree that keeping things in perspective and not being too hard on yourself is so important. Striving for perfection can take the fun out of blogging.

  25. 31st August 2018 / 1:44 am

    Ruth this was entirely encouraging for me. Earlier this week, I told myself I wanted to kick fear in the butt and self promote more. Like you said, paraphrasing here: “you created the work be proud of it and it doesn’t matter if people don’t like your content because you write for you.” I’m so inspired by this post and it’s time to stop being so concerned about others and take care of my own business. Thanks Ruth you are one of a kind! Glad we’re blogging buddies <3

    Natonya | http://www.justnatonya.wordpress.com

  26. 5th September 2018 / 7:08 pm

    Such a lovely well written post. I have loved following you on Twitter and have now joined your tribe. Keep up the amazing work.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      7th September 2018 / 3:22 pm

      This makes me so happy. Thank you very much!!

  27. 7th September 2018 / 1:54 am

    Hey Ruth great post! I really appreciate it. I’m still in the very beginning stages of what you outlined above but I think I’m making progress! I’m not yet at the point where I’m reaching out to collaborating with other brands but I’m trying to network and establish a better presence in social media. It’s difficult when you work so much but I’m trying!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      9th September 2018 / 10:16 am

      Good on you for trying, Geraldine! I know how hard it is, especially at the beginning, but you can do it! 😀

  28. 29th September 2018 / 1:55 am

    Well, your post really helped me, I’m starting a new blog but even with a small audience and a lot of work I feel like I’m not doing enough. But you were right, everything will go as it pace.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      30th September 2018 / 12:34 pm

      I’m really glad to know it helped you! Don’t overdo it – keep making small steps in the right direction, and everything will be okay! 🙂

  29. 14th October 2018 / 7:07 pm

    Great post! If there’s one thing I’ve learnt about blogging it’s that it’s important to stay true to yourself. Once you do that people find it easier to relate and start to gravitate towards you.

    Thank goodness there are awesome, supportive people like you who make the whole blogging experience better for newcomers 🙂

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      16th October 2018 / 3:13 pm

      That’s spot on! You’ve got to be you. I’m happy I can help to make you feel welcome! 💛

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