A Letter For The Struggling Blogger

A Letter For The Struggling Blogger

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Dear struggling blogger,

I imagine you’re reading this because you’re feeling overwhelmed, or fed up, or any number of negative emotions. Perhaps things aren’t going the way you thought they would, or as quickly as you wanted. Maybe you just feel burnt out.

Just pause for a second. Take a deep breath. Then, breathe out all of that frustration.

At some point along the way, we are all a struggling blogger. It’s rare that anyone dives into this and flies. It takes hard work, time and commitment. Some of which you can see on the surface, and much of which goes on behind the scenes.

But, it also requires balance. If you sit and stare at the computer screen when you’ve got no inspiration, or frantically fresh your stats, you are bound to feel defeated.

Here’s my advice to you.

Keep things in context.

The lines between what we want and what we think we need to do get blurry quickly. Many of us start with simple intentions and end up stumbling into the numbers game. We end up thinking we need x amount of Instagram followers, and however many views. I’ve said before that it’s okay to care about stats, but it shouldn’t be the biggest factor.

When you see people celebrating their wins on social media, don’t let it get you down. Focus on your own goals. Is blogging a creative outlet? Did you start to help people? Whatever your reasoning was, I’m sure it’s more than likely something more substantial than figures.

What does blogging bring to your life that can’t be measured? Think of that. Keep looking at the bigger picture.

I also recommend reading What Does Being A Successful Blogger Mean? by Megan Elizabeth.

Life gets in the way sometimes.

Have you ever followed a blogger and caught yourself wondering how on Earth they manage to juggle it all? Has that ever descended into you questioning why you can’t do the same thing and feeling upset about it?

Everyone is different. We are all on different journeys, and at different places in them. What we can cope with is dependent on us. It doesn’t make anyone better or worse – just different.

You may have a lot on your plate which requires your attention. Your mental health may be having a wobble. You might be trying to squeeze in extra time with your family. There may be other hobbies you want to explore. You could be embracing the great outdoors and spending more time in nature. Whatever the reason is, don’t put extra pressure on yourself. Know it’s okay to live your life and let blogging wait.

Try something new.

Switch up your layout. Research alternative Pinterest strategies. Follow new people on Instagram. Experiment with a new writing style. You get the idea.

If you’ve been blogging for a while, maybe it all just feels a bit stale. You feel like you’ve explored every option, and exhausted all other possibilities. I highly doubt that’s true.

Do some research. You’re more than likely to discover a technique you haven’t thought of. Breathe a bit of new life into your blog or social media by trying different techniques and strategies. You’ll probably feel more engaged because it’s refreshing, and your audience may appreciate it, too!

Ask for help.

The blogging community is a basket of good eggs. It’s unfair to expect anyone to do the work for you or provide a miracle solution to achieve success, but don’t be afraid to ask someone for their opinion.

Keep in mind they may be busy themselves and not necessarily able to help, but I imagine most would try.

If you’re very serious about pursuing blogging and have a little extra cash at your disposal, there are also blogging coaches out there who will help you for a fee.

Remember: blogging should be (mostly) fun.

There are parts of blogging I do not enjoy – like keyword research and scheduling social media content. Overall, though, it encompasses a lot of things I love. If you feel the same way, then try not to let other factors cloud your judgement.

I’m a firm believer in doing things in life you enjoy. Even if you are doing this as a career (or working towards it), it should be because you’re passionate about it and want to make a living from something which makes you happy.

If blogging is no longer hitting the mark and you find yourself feeling tired of it all, there are two things to consider:

It’s okay to take a break. 

You wouldn’t think it, the way we all squeeze blogging in to every spare second. However, the only person who’s permission you need to take a breather is your own. If blogging isn’t fun anymore, then it’s time to reevaluate.

There’s this fear which grows inside us and tricks us into thinking that, if we take some time off, we’re going to return to a ghost town. That is a risk. The internet is a fickle place, after all, but it’s not as much as likely as we think. If you’ve been engaging in the community and have a loyal audience, they will still be here when you get back. They don’t want to see you run yourself into the ground.

It’s okay to walk away.

The nice bit of advice would be to not give up, yet I don’t think feeding into that mentality would be completely healthy.

You know, blogging isn’t for everyone. The only way to know is to try. If you’ve given it a go and it’s simply become another source of stress in your life, is it really worth continuing? It’s not a personal failure, it’s just not “your thing.”

Admitting this is hard, especially if you’ve put a lot of time and effort into it. But it’s important to question if you’re just wasting your time and energy? You could be using them towards something else which DOES work for you.

The key here is to be honest with your audience. Though you don’t owe anyone an explanation for living your life, it’s nice to let them know you’re okay, but your priorities have changed.

Consider another perspective.

Ask yourself this: if one of your favourite bloggers decided to take time off, how would you feel?

I’m going to assume the answer is something along the lines of understanding. Therefore, people will probably feel that way towards you, and you should grant yourself the same compassion.

Plenty of bloggers I know have decided they needed to have a break, and there has never been any ill feeling towards them. Anyone who runs a blog knows how difficult it can be. They’ll understand.

 

What I want you to remember, dear blogger, is that you’re not alone. At some point or another, almost every one, if not all, of us will end up where you are now. Some people bounce back, some call it quits, and that’s your call. Put yourself first. Do what’s right for you.

Just know, one way or another, things will work out as they’re supposed to.

Love,

Ruth.

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40 Comments

  • Fox 30th January 2019 at 11:07 am

    Thanks for these ideas. It easy to become disillusioned when your stats are disappointing, but like you said, we just need to remember why we started, and for me, it was as a creative outlet and to help people. I just need to keep that in mind! x

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:09 am

      It’s so easy to forget it because it is exciting having a measurable way to track your growth (like views and numbers) so we’ve got to remind ourselves of it once in a while!

  • Cordelia Moor 30th January 2019 at 11:29 am

    Ruth, I love you. I’ve been struggling with the old blog this week and not knowing what kind of content I wanted to create and not knowing whether anything I’ve done so far has /actually been good etc etc (we’ve all been there), and so this post is like you’ve cracked my head open and helped deal with everything. You’ve reminded me it’s okay to take a break, and so I’m taking the pressure off until Monday and not even really worrying too much.

    Cordelia || cordeliamoor.com

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:10 am

      I’m glad I could help! I know you won’t see it yourself, but you’ve been nailing it recently, and your content just seems to be going from strength to strength. I’m sure easing off a little while you’re not inspired will help that trend continue.

  • Jules_writes 30th January 2019 at 12:00 pm

    Well said. I think you have covered a lot of very important topics that is relevant to almost every blogger.

    I blogged years ago and then my life was just too full of other demands, I stepped away and I missed it but it was also a relief. This time around I am going to bear in mind that this is my hobby and I want to do it for me. And I will slow down if it becomes too much.

    Thank you for sharing.

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:12 am

      That’s how I’ve felt about Twitter recently – I used to go on there every day, for several hours, but it started to get in the way of me actually creating content. So, I reduced my time on there, and I missed talking to everyone, but it also took a huge weight off my shoulders.

      Glad you know to slow down now if it all gets too much! Thank you for reading!

  • Jo (A Rose Tinted World) 30th January 2019 at 12:24 pm

    Very well put. It can become all consuming. Reminding yourself why you started is a great way to start getting your mojo back!

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:12 am

      Definitely – I think there’s so much to do, it’s very easy for it to fill up every spare second!

  • Bexa 30th January 2019 at 12:35 pm

    This is such a thoughtful and reassuring post, I think every blogger needs to read this! Thank you for sharing, Ruth. Blogging can be so demanding at times, it so easy to burn out and feel stressed with it. Taking a break is such good advice, I was worried about taking some time off last year when I was struggling, but it was the right decision in the end. I was able to focus on feeling better and I came back to blogging feeling refreshed and inspired. Like you say, our blogs and readers will be there when we are ready again. It’s always good to put things into perspective, then make some changes if our blogs are becoming a source of stress. Brilliantly written letter, thanks Ruth! <3 xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:14 am

      Thanks Bexa! I’m glad you were able to take that break and focus on yourself. You work really hard, both on your blog and social media, and it would have been sad to see you lose your love for it if you’d kept pushing through.

  • Rebekah Gillian 30th January 2019 at 12:37 pm

    This is SUCH good advice! As someone who has been blogging for a few years at this point, I think it’s only natural to go through periods where you aren’t as in love with your blog as you were the week or month before, but like you said, these times give you the perfect opportunity to step back, take a break and reevaluate things. One of the most powerful things I ever did for myself last year, when I wasn’t enjoying blogging so much because balancing it with freelancing was hard, was give myself permission not to blog for a while. I took two months away and came back with a much clearer perspective in regards to the direction I wanted my blog to go in and the kind of things I wanted to write about. I’m now four weeks into a consistent blogging routine and I’m loving it so much more because I took time away when I needed it. Your post is going to be super helpful for so many people, me included. Thanks for writing it!

    Rebekah Gillian | https://rebekahgillian.co.uk/

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:16 am

      Yay! I’m so glad to hear how your break has helped you. I think it can definitely renew your enthusiasm for it. When you’re in the midst of it, it’s hard to separate everything and think of any sort of plan, I think, so pausing is a great opportunity to properly identify what works and what doesn’t.

  • Lisa McLachlan 30th January 2019 at 1:54 pm

    “What does blogging bring to your life that can’t be measured? Think of that. Keep looking at the bigger picture.” This. Just this. I took a mini blogging break last year because everything was getting on top of me and I just couldn’t keep my blog going, it felt like one more thing on my to do list. My time out let me see what was really important in my life and, fortunately, blogging is part of that too. I’d lost my joy in writing and my creative spark but a little time away did wonders for me. Now, I do try and have a schedule of sorts but I don’t beat myself up if I don’t stick to it. It’s my blog, I’ll do what’s right for me. Thank you, Ruth, as always you pinpoint the essence of what’s important! xx

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:18 am

      I’m so glad a break worked for you, Lisa! I think that’s the best way to be with your schedule, especially when you have a family. You need to be flexible and be able to make the most of the moments and days with them.

  • Zoë 30th January 2019 at 6:34 pm

    Ahh Ive definitely had my fair share of struggles when it comes to blogging, so Im definitely going to save this for when I need the encouragement and motivation! Loved the post Ruth! xx

    http://zoe-ware.com

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:19 am

      Thanks Zoe!

  • Macey 30th January 2019 at 6:58 pm

    I feel like you addressed every possible fear or qualm a struggling blogger might have, and you put all worries to rest with your lovely advice. While it’s somewhat unfortunate that you have to put so much effort and time on social media and the like to get noticed in this blogging game, it makes sense that you get what you put into it, and even if we have to take a step back, that’s okay too. Loved this!

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:22 am

      Thanks Macey! You’re right about getting out what you put into it, which I think does make it harder to take a break, because we know it will have an impact on our progress. But sometimes, it’s just got to be done.

  • Lauren 30th January 2019 at 8:17 pm

    I really needed to read this post today. I’ve been blogging for 8 years almost but it’s always just been as a hobby. Over the last 4 months or so I’ve really been trying to up my game and male something more of my blog, I feel like I’m starting again and I’m really struggling managing my time. I have a job and it’s exhausting coming home from my job to then work on my blog, I’m very much feeling burnt out right now!

    Lauren x
    http://www.laurenyloves.co.uk

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:26 am

      Aww, I’m sorry. 8 years is a long time to dedicate to your blog, so it’s clear you’re passionate about it, and I have no doubt you can achieve what you want! Right now, maybe you should take some time to recover from feeling burnt out – especially if it’s been an intense few months. I don’t work currently, but I’ve seen a few things on Pinterest about managing blogging with a job, so you could have a browse on there for advice on how other people do it?

  • Rachel 30th January 2019 at 8:22 pm

    Thanks Ruth! I’ve been struggling lately with blogging and I feel like these are important things to keep in mind 🙂

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:26 am

      You’re welcome!

  • Sarah - Adventure Accessories 30th January 2019 at 8:22 pm

    Fab post. Detailed, honest and actionable. Thank you Ruth you do so much to help others.

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:26 am

      Thank you, Sarah!

  • Isabelle 30th January 2019 at 9:52 pm

    I really enjoyed reading this! I’ve recently took a long break from blogging, as life got in the way! But I really want to try and get back into it again! I sort of feel a bit lost with blogging again and talking and connecting with other bloggers.
    But reading this blog, definitely helped made me feel a little easier xx

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:27 am

      I’m really glad I could help! I’d say just ease yourself back into it. When I started, I’d reach out to one or two bloggers a day (either by leaving them a comment on their posts, or replying to them on Twitter etc) to try and establish some people I felt comfortable with. It worked pretty well. You can do it!

  • Kathy 31st January 2019 at 4:00 am

    I never thought of a blogging coach before!!! I really want to call myself a blogger, and be mildly successful at it in the realms of engagement and followers – I think I might take your advice! Thanks for the post 💕

    • ruthinrevolt 31st January 2019 at 10:28 am

      No problem! Glad I could help and good luck!

  • Natonya 31st January 2019 at 2:06 pm

    Ruth this post spoke to my soul but in a different way. You reminded me that hard work pays off. I need to stop being lazy with my blogging and take better responsibility of my platform. I don’t want to take my experience for granted and keep comparing it to others. You’re right, we have to remind ourselves if the big picture and our blogging purpose. It’s important to have fun and remain faithful things will always work out in our favor, even with challenges and obstacles in our way.

    Natonya | https://justnatonya.wordpress.com

    • ruthinrevolt 5th February 2019 at 8:43 am

      Well, I’m glad I could help you in any case! Though, I certainly wouldn’t have thought of you as lazy – you seem like a very driven and passionate individual!

  • Lydia 31st January 2019 at 4:41 pm

    Thank you for this lovely post; I have lost interest in my blog, and writing, quite drastically recently, and I needed to hear this. Lydia x

    • ruthinrevolt 5th February 2019 at 8:44 am

      You’re welcome! Hope it comes back to you soon!

  • Jessica Mathis 31st January 2019 at 10:56 pm

    I get frustrated sometimes because keeping up with Twitter alone is massively exhausting (therefore, I just don’t do it all the time, and I know that hurts my reach). Not to mention I have no Facebook or IG or Pinterest yet. I see why people hire social media mangers.

    But I got into blogging because I want to help others. I have something to say that I think someone out there could use or appreciate. So that’s what keeps me going, not whether or not I’m making money. It’s been a struggle learning how to grow my audience, but I haven’t been doing it very long and as I make more steps, that part will come I hope. I have to put in the effort though. Just have to remember why I’m doing this. As soon as it feels like a chore or an obligation, then I know I need to put it down for a minute.

    Thanks for the advice!

    • ruthinrevolt 5th February 2019 at 8:47 am

      I completely understand what you mean! I’ve had to take a step back from Twitter slightly because it was using up so much of my time and I just felt really drained. It’s tricky because I love chatting to people on there, but it’s not the reason I started blogging and I don’t want to lose my focus.

      You’ll get there, I’m sure, especially as you haven’t been doing it for very long. There’s still plenty of things to try and to explore!

  • nati 1st February 2019 at 2:20 am

    oh Ruth, I can’t tell you how wonderful you are. thank you so much for this post – you’ve helped so, so many of us with this absolutely beautifully written piece + I’m very grateful for you. your content is changing the blogging community, for the better !

    nati x | http://www.natimacchiato.com

    • ruthinrevolt 5th February 2019 at 8:48 am

      Awww, thank you so much, Nati! You’re such an angel.

  • Joan Senio 1st February 2019 at 7:50 pm

    Thanks for sharing this post, Ruth. I took a break recently, and have scaled back my blog related work a lot since the new year. It has been really good for me, I think, in large part, because it gave me the space I needed to reflect on the true reasons I began blogging in the first place.
    My toes are back in the water, but I’m refreshed with new inspiration about other exciting options, too.
    Thanks as always for offering your honest perspectives kindly and with love!
    Joan
    My Best Friend Adeline
    https://kindness-compassion-and-coaching.com

    • ruthinrevolt 5th February 2019 at 8:49 am

      I’m glad your break has done you some good, Joan! It would be a real loss to the community if you were to give it up altogether.

  • Geraldine 2nd February 2019 at 11:01 pm

    Ruth, this was so encouraging to read! I feel like a struggling blogger but work has forced me to step away from the blog. But being forced to stay away has made me feel super itchy to get back on my blog and write all my ideas down, urgh! I do feel bad when I am away from it for a while but honestly it really helps when I take a little break. Thank you again for writing this! <3

    • ruthinrevolt 5th February 2019 at 8:50 am

      At least taking a step back, even when you didn’t want to, has given you a bit of excitement to get back into it! Try not to feel bad, though, it happens to us all at some point or another. It’s a lot of work and trying to maintain it when other parts of life need more attention just wouldn’t be healthy.

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