We need to talk about the ugly side of blogging

We need to talk about the ugly side of blogging

The ugly side of blogging has recently reared its head, and I’m feeling quite annoyed about it. Frankly, this post goes against everything I stand for (which is why I’ve tried to balance it with a cute cat picture), but a few issues have popped up recently which I felt the need to write about.

It feels strange to unleash this into the world on a Friday.  The Twittersphere is full of everyone sharing their favourites because it’s Follow Friday. It’s amazing and shows how willing we are to support each other. This is the side I know and love. It’s the reason I champion the blogging community at every chance I get.

But, it’s not always plain sailing.

I had been warned about this at the beginning, but I was in a happy little bubble. It’s not I didn’t believe what people were saying, but I think I was simply too excited to be starting out to allow it to sink in. When I tweeted about bloggers disappearing, a few people reached out and said things can get ugly. It made me sad to know people had bad experiences because mine had only been positive so far.

Famous last words.

As with any area where competition is a factor, there is always going to be some degree of tension. I understand that. I appreciate we all want to do well, and we all want to have our work seen. We work hard to make it happen and it sometimes feels like we’re getting nowhere. When this manifests into unpleasant behaviour, I have absolutely NO time for it. I know I can’t single-handedly change social media so it becomes fairies and rainbows, but let me highlight something: we can achieve far greater things by supporting each other than we can by tearing each other down.

Sometimes, your views are going to suck and it can be hard to deal with, especially if you’ve been having a good streak. If you take those emotions and then direct your angst against the community you rely on for support, things will only unravel further. The people most likely to read your blog are bloggers themselves. It’s probably not a good idea to turn on them. There are ways and means of gaining more traffic, and I don’t remember that list mentioning “blame other bloggers for your failures and watch the views come rolling in.”

There are days when my blog views struggle, and I look at all the factors which could have caused it, and remind myself it’s not the end of the world. Is it a beautiful, sunny day? Given the U.K. is in the midst of a heatwave, it probably is. So, maybe everyone is out enjoying it, and good for them! Was it something a lot of people would be interested in? Perhaps not, it could have been content which I wrote for my own benefit. Did I have promotional tweets scheduled for that day? Oops, nope, I forgot.

Jealousy is an ugly emotion. I received a horrible message from someone recently. In fact, I’ve had a few over the last couple of weeks. There is zero chance of me disclosing who it was to anyone, so please don’t ask. I don’t talk about them because I don’t want to feed into that person’s need for attention. The only reason it’s getting a mention here is that it’s relevant.

The nature of these messages has varied. They’ve ranged from accusing me of not having a mental illness and “jumping on the bandwagon” to asking me to justify why I’m so popular. I blocked them in the end, but it was hard. I’ve been lucky with the support I’ve had and I’m thankfully in a strong enough place to recognise the truth behind the words, but it can only take a comment like that to plant a seed of self-doubt and stop somebody doing something they love.

And while that might accomplish their goals of reducing the competition, there are still going to be hundreds of other bloggers to go up against. You know what makes it a whole lot easier and more enjoyable? Stop seeing everyone as competition. I see the blogging community as a team. Help others, and they’ll help you.

Do I sometimes feel jealous of other bloggers? Of course I do, but I don’t let it rule my actions. There are so many varying factors when it comes to being a successful blogger. The amount of free time you have, your willingness to approach brands, the niche you are in, just to name a few. Try not to let the green-eyed monster take over.

If an issue does pop up, then address it in a mature way. I don’t think many people object to genuine, constructive criticism, as long as it’s delivered in a fair way.

There has been some controversy on Twitter this week about blog RT accounts. As someone whose success so far is largely built upon the help of the incredibly kind people who run those accounts, it’s hard for me to agree with you. I personally couldn’t keep up even half as well as they do, and I’m so grateful they exist. However, if you have been disappointed by them, or feel like things could be done better, be reasonable and discuss it directly. Indirect tweets about it are pointless, as is launching a malicious attack against the people behind it.

People who run blog RT accounts don’t owe you anything, and neither does anybody else, for that matter. They do it to try and help. They might miss tweets sometimes, but why not just try again? Or, if it happens repeatedly, ask them about it, or try a different RT account. Don’t spit your dummy out and have a go at them. Some of my tweets have been missed in the past, and that’s okay. The people running those accounts usually have their own blogs, as well as other things in their lives going on. The fact they are willing to use their time to try and give others a boost is not something to be criticised.

If you really think you could do a better job, then why not start your own and give it a try?

People ask me all the time how I’ve done so much so quickly and here’s my secret: BEING NICE. Genuinely nice. Not nice until things don’t go my way. I probably get more excited about other people’s achievements than I do my own. The number of incredibly sweet messages I’ve had about how I’m a breath of fresh air in the blogging community has blown me away, but when others start showing their true colours, I can begin to understand why people say that. You don’t need to share my enthusiasm, but just be respectfful. Let others have their time, and yours will come eventually.

Realistically, I know the ugly side of blogging is always going to exist. I know there will be people who come into it with expectations that aren’t met and attitudes which stink. There are people who live for drama and thrive on causing it. Rather than encourage them, ignore them, block them, forget about them. I know it’s hard, but it really is best to rise above it. They’ve got no place here.

The blogging community welcomed and embraced me in a way I’ve never experienced. As well as anti-depressants and counselling, I attribute the improvement in my mental health to being part of this. For many people, it’s a safe space. It’s an escape from all the other nonsense which might be going on. I don’t want that to change.

It’s probably the way you’ve all reacted to me which means I feel very protective of all of you. I want you to be happy, and I want you to succeed, and what I certainly don’t want is anybody ruining your enjoyment of blogging. When I see people disturbing the peace and causing drama, I get mad. But, I’m not going to let a few people ruin it for me, or for others. You shouldn’t, either. There are already enough challenges when it comes to blogging.

 

We need to talk about the ugly side of blogging

70 Comments

  1. 27th July 2018 / 11:09 am

    We need more genuinely nice people like you! Thanks for this post, sad that there are people out there so negative, we’re all in this together! You have an absolutely incredible blog, so sorry you had to go through any of this!!

    Jessie
    Your story matters.
    http://www.onelostcoin.com

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 11:11 am

      It’s okay – in some ways, I’m glad it was me and not somebody else who might have been in a more vulnerable place! Thank you for such a lovely comment!

  2. 27th July 2018 / 11:19 am

    I cannot believe why anyone would waste their time and energy to send something other then positive to another blogger. If you write we should appreciate knowing the hard work, effort and dedication that goes into making a post and everyone should value others success as inspiration. I’m glad you talked about the recent attack RT accounts have received (I’ve also just read @palegirlramblings latest post on RT account and she was talking similar). It would be so nice if everyone supported one another. A lovely honest post.
    Kate x
    http://www.katesbeautyhome.blog

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 12:19 pm

      Yeah, it’s so strange when other bloggers attack each other, knowing how hard it can be. I’ll need to take a look at her post, too, thank you! 🙂

  3. nathaniel3206
    27th July 2018 / 11:25 am

    I’m just getting into blogging so it’s sad to see this happens here as well as in other media forms. But I am happy to have found so early the lighthouse in the storm of negativity.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 12:18 pm

      Well, I hope you don’t end up involved with any of it and don’t let it put you off – the pros outweigh the cons! 🙂

  4. 27th July 2018 / 11:26 am

    Well said Ruth! Thank you for sharing this. Social media and blogging should always be a kind, safe and supportive place for everyone. Unfortunately, there will always be people with insecurities and jealousy who try to knock others down to feel better about themselves, which is totally unacceptable and says more about them I guess. You are such a kind, sweet and genuine person. Keep being you! I’m so happy that your blog & Twitter is doing amazingly well, you deserve all the success and I’m excited to be following you on this blogging journey 💖 xx

    Also, yay for cute cat pics!

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 12:17 pm

      Precisely, Bexa! I just hope other people can realise that if they happen to get caught up in it. I can see why people take it to heart, but it says much more about the person trying to drag you down than it ever will about you. Thank you, as always, for such a wonderful comment and for always being one of the most supportive members of this community. You’re an example to us all! 🙂

  5. 27th July 2018 / 11:30 am

    So sorry Ruth, can’t believe you received such messages… you are so nice and inspiring. 💖 You ROCK!
    People can be so mean and jealous. Let’s just forget about them!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 12:16 pm

      Aww, thank you! You’re so sweet. You’re right, though – just got to forget about them and move on.

  6. 27th July 2018 / 11:39 am

    I don’t know how you do it, Ruth, but you hit the nail on the head every time. I was so sad to read about the attacks on RT accounts this week when, as you say, they do it in their own time, for free, just to help others. It can’t be that hard to realise that sometimes their own lives will take precedent. Being rude and publicly calling someone out is never OK in these circumstances. My blog would never have had the views it’s had without RT accounts’ help, I’m always so grateful to them. I read another blog post last year by @loulabxlle about turning jealousy into motivation and I think it’s such a brilliant way of looking at things, it’s something I try to do when I get down. Love this post, thank you for writing it xx

    Lisa | http://www.lisasnotebook.com

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 12:15 pm

      Exactly – I think a lot of the people I’m now blogging buddies with were found through them, or that’s how they found me. I have so much to thank them for, and it seemed impossible to sit back and not say anything on the subject.

      Oh, I’ll need to try and take a look at that post – thanks for the suggestion! 🙂

  7. David Anderson
    27th July 2018 / 11:45 am

    Hi Ruth. There are many similarities between what you describe here and public speaking and, in particular, preaching. You know that over the years I have taken some stick for what I’ve said and how I’ve said it. People question your right to speak, your motives and the ‘accuracy’ of what you are saying. The best response to the ‘haters’ is to kick the dust from your feet (or keyboard) and move on to those who are willing to receive what is on offer.

    Playing the numbers game is a real curse and can rob you of the joy and surprise of discovering the impact of what has been shared. I have long come to the view if I’m only speaking to one or two people thats who needs to hear what is being said. Time and again i have spoken to people who perhaps heard me speak several years previously about the impact of something I said. I’m certain the same is true about your blogs.

    Keep at it. Anderson style!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 12:13 pm

      Thanks Dad. I agree, the people who matter are the ones I can help along the way. Everything else is noise.

      When it comes to things like this, it’s very clearly in our blood to rub people up the wrong way, but that’s their choice to make. It won’t stop me. 🙂

  8. 27th July 2018 / 11:46 am

    Loved reading this, the world could do with more lovely people like you! It’s so horrible that a handful of people have to taint it for the rest of us!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 12:10 pm

      Aww, thanks Karen! We just won’t let those people spoil it. 😉

  9. 27th July 2018 / 11:58 am

    I’ve been blogging for nine years and there’s always been an ugly side from the get-go. Luckily, knock on wood, I haven’t been the recipient of it. One reason is because I refuse to take part in the ugly side of blogging. There’s tons of blogs out there, with different niches and personalities. Like you said, we should be lifting each other up and encouraging each other. Being nice and encouraging will get you farther and faster.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 12:09 pm

      I’m glad you haven’t been involved with any of it, at least! Thanks for your comment. 🙂

  10. 27th July 2018 / 12:18 pm

    I find the way Twitter does notifications kind of weird and it’s SO easy for RT accounts to miss a post. They have seas of notifications of likes, RTs, mentions, hashtags, it’s insane.

    And as you said: if a blogger feels like they haven’t got a RT, they should try again or DM the account.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 12:20 pm

      I can imagine. I sometimes miss people’s replies or tweets to me, and I probably only receive a fraction of what they do. I really don’t know how they do it! There’s just no point taking it personally.

  11. 27th July 2018 / 12:27 pm

    Excellent post Ruth! You’re kindness, unique view, and genuine personality sets you apart and it’s what creates your momentum. You have found your voice and that brings your followers. Continue to be proud of that. We need to all support each other. Great job!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:12 pm

      Thank you very much! I always appreciate your enthusiasm and encouragement.

  12. 27th July 2018 / 1:05 pm

    I have been so baffled by the backlash towards RT accounts recently. How many posts must these accounts get? And they are often run by one, two, or a small handful of people who have lives outside of these accounts. There will be missed posts; you can’t expect there not to be. I tend to look at it as, I’m very grateful if they do, but completely completely understanding if they don’t. There’s no use getting angry – it isn’t going to change anything, and it certainly isn’t going to help your traffic. As you mentioned, these accounts do wonderful things for increasing view counts, and I’m so grateful to people that put in the time and effort to run them. They don’t deserve this anger at all. I’m glad that this post exists. It’s a reminder of all of the positivity and support that is abundant in this community, and I think that’s what people need right now. 💛

  13. 27th July 2018 / 1:19 pm

    Preach girl! You’ve got it spot on. I’m not a big blogger like you and I could do a little better on my social media skills, but I do feel like you’re right. We should be here to help each other, not tear each other down. I love how you adress this issue, let’s hope many people read it 🙂

  14. 27th July 2018 / 1:47 pm

    Very well said. Unfortunately you can’t stop those who will choose negativity, but your outlook and approach are inspiring.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:13 pm

      Thank you. 🙂

  15. 27th July 2018 / 1:57 pm

    It’s honestly so sad that people feel the need to do things like that. What are you gaining? Absolutely nothing. I’m sure we all have our moments of self-doubt and jealousy as bloggers. But I love the community that has come with blogging, and to act negative and attack people is like turning your back on the people that can actually HELP you in your blogging career.

  16. 27th July 2018 / 2:02 pm

    You’ve restored my faith in social networking at the end of the day we’re here to help each other out – but there are some people out there who are there out of sheer personal greatness. My blog is doing well – I had no expectations! I still don’t but having people on side is a massive help – some people don’t yet realise the world doesn’t revolve around them. I love his post with every fibre because you’ve had the strength to say what so many others don’t. I’m proud of you!

    Shan x

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:14 pm

      Thank you so much! 🙂

  17. 27th July 2018 / 2:08 pm

    Unfortunately there are mean spirited people in all walks of life, including the blogging community. I have found however that they are a fairly small group in the grand scheme and so I just ignore them. Some people just like to spread their own misery. I love your blog and your positive and uplifting posts so keep doing what your doing 💖

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:17 pm

      You’re right, it is only a handful of people. I think it sometimes seems like more when it spirals and others get involved, which is why I try not to but I knew something needed to be said.

      Thank you. It won’t stop me 🙂

  18. 27th July 2018 / 2:39 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had this experience. I think it takes a lot of bravery to write a blog. As bloggers, we’re often writing about personal topics, expressing our own thoughts and feelings, and whilst this can often be very liberating, it can also (very occasionally) lead to a little backlash. I love that you’ve written this post – it shows that the ugly side of blogging is, sadly, unavoidable but if you try your best to ignore those intent on putting you down, then you can move past it. (I guess the same could be said of real life too!)

    Also, I love RT accounts on Twitter! I’ve only recently discovered them and I think they’re amazing 🙂

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:18 pm

      I agree with you about blogging. It takes a lot, even if you’re not discussing personal topics, just giving your opinion about a product can open you up to trouble!

      Glad you’re loving RT accounts 😄

  19. 27th July 2018 / 3:01 pm

    Bleh! How awful that people would project their negativity on someone else. It can be difficult to put ourselves out there in such a vulnerable position but there are more people out there who really love and even need to hear our stories.

    Way to stay above the negativity and continue championing for the blogging community! Sending good vibes your way.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:18 pm

      Thank you so much 🙂

  20. 27th July 2018 / 3:02 pm

    Well said. It works out best if people relish in the success of others.

  21. 27th July 2018 / 3:20 pm

    Don’t let the Negative Nancys get to you. They are likely miserable all the time anyway. I enjoy reading your posts as do a lot of others, so keep on going!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:19 pm

      I will, thank you! 🙂

  22. 27th July 2018 / 3:24 pm

    Well said , Ruth. This is very reassuring to a newbie blogger. Thank you. Jane

  23. 27th July 2018 / 3:29 pm

    Thank you for this! I found your blog on Twitter and I’m a fan! I can’t wait to stick around and see what else you share with us. I’m new to the blogging world and I’ve found Twitter to be so much more than I ever hoped for in terms of connecting with other bloggers. I couldn’t agree more that it’s so important to build each other up. There’s room for all of us here and someone our there needs to hear OUR story, the way only we can tell it. Your encouraging words are a breath of fresh air and thank you for your honesty!

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:20 pm

      Aww thank you very much, I really appreciate this! Twitter is an amazing place to meet other bloggers and I’m delighted you’ve had a warm welcome!

  24. 27th July 2018 / 3:44 pm

    100% agree with you! No matter what direction of life we choose to go in we will always meet people who want to drag us down, beat us and achieve greater things that us. Yes I feel jealous of some bloggers at times because they are doing so well! But you know what? So am I. I’m working my hardest and very best. Each month I am smashing my goals and doing everything in my power to begin building my career. I really love this post Ruth! Keep up you’re amazing work. We all love you and want to see you succeed just like we want to succeed. ❤️💕

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:21 pm

      Well said. Thanks Anne! 😊

  25. 27th July 2018 / 4:43 pm

    Thank you for posting this. I went through something similar this week because some people didn’t agree with my opinion on something. It was horrible and has seriously increased my anxiety. I am glad to see I’m not alone. I appreciate your openness about this.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 5:22 pm

      I’m so sorry to hear you had a similar incident. Hope you’re doing okay. ❤️

      • 27th July 2018 / 7:54 pm

        Thank you. I am doing better today. My blog is highly personal, so things like this seem so much like an attack. I’m glad to have the support of the wonderful bloggers out there who understand how hard it is to put yourself out there. Keep building people up. It means lot to many of us.

  26. 27th July 2018 / 6:09 pm

    I’m sorry someone was so filled with hate that they had to send some of their negativity your way. You have been one of the most supportive bloggers I’ve met along my journey and you deserve every bit of success that’s coming your way! Know that for every negative comment, we have hundreds of positive comments for you. You are an amazing woman and I’m so glad I’ve gotten to know you.

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      27th July 2018 / 7:17 pm

      Thank you, Cici – I feel exactly the same about you! It really is those positive and kind comments which mean I can just forget about the fraction of people who want to cause trouble. ❤️

  27. 27th July 2018 / 6:28 pm

    I’m so sorry you have to deal with assholes rn. I can be brusk and grunpy, and seem like I’m yelling at particular people at times even though I’m really just yelling int o the void at no one in particular…. But I can’t stand people who are direct and intentional divks for no reason :/

    There’s just no point to it; there’s no reason to yell at or drag down other bloggers. Their success IS our success… If one of us succeeds, blogging is taken more seriously, which allows room for more of us to succeed. And while I don’t always agree with the methods (like follow-for-follow or other methods meant explicitly to artificially increase numbers without actually gaining you a solid readership base)? That’s still something to celebrate… Not be an ass about.

    It’s sad there’s people out there who think you need to be.

  28. 27th July 2018 / 7:36 pm

    Hi Ruth, I discovered your blog very recently on Twitter and loved it!! You emit such positivity as a new blogger I find it inspiring. I just feel that if you are facing negativity it means doing something right. I love your amazing work. Keep inspiring ❤️❤️

  29. 27th July 2018 / 9:00 pm

    First of all, Lemmie start off with somethinnnnnng:

    I. Love. You.

    You have been an insightful, intellectual, balanced, happy soul that has made me believe in this community all over again.

    I’ve felt some of what you’ve experienced lately and I’m honestly gutted that it’s happened to you too. As you mention it’s never always going to be faeries and unicorn farts – but disrespecting or spitting venom will not help anyone.

    “An eye for an eye makes the world go blind”

    We really do need to stick together. Some competition is healthy! But when someone stabs ursulas fork into it, it becomes horrid, choking… heavy.
    No one deserves to feel that about something they love doing.

    An amazing post, and I’m forever here for you Ruth. I mean it! Keep strong my little love x

  30. 27th July 2018 / 11:37 pm

    I have looked at the RT controversy and follow groups and all that sort of thing as being a bit like the mob. You get jumped in and then if you can’t live up to the unspoken rules, you get lynched. It’s seriously intimidating and I would hate to think we lose new blog because of it. The expectations are too high! Those who do retweet and invest in the community are amazing. I know I could not retweet everyone I love to read. I simply could not do what they do AND produce quality content for my own blog. What can we do? We can’t cave and retweet everything that crosses our feeds, can we? Some people need to remember that the internet is big enough for all of us, create the best work we can and support each other REASONABLY. And seriously, ‘reasonably’ is not ‘tweet for a tweet’.

  31. 27th July 2018 / 11:40 pm

    This is such an urgent post. I’m so sorry you’ve experience negativity from the community – they’re just jealous of the fact that you don’t have the malicious side that they do! You’re an incredible woman and I’m so happy to see your blog’s success and your mental health improvement continue to grow over time.

    Sending you good vibes for a wonderful weekend!

    Nati x | http://www.curatedbynati.com | @curatedbynati

  32. 28th July 2018 / 12:26 am

    This is such an important topic to address. What a great example of courage and integrity. I’m still sort of new and haven’t experienced this behavior yet, and if I do, I will remember these words and be encouraged by them. It is so terrible when we try to tear each other down; and I hope your post will change some hearts, and be an eye-opening catalyst.

  33. 28th July 2018 / 2:53 am

    Well said Ruth. Seen too much “anti-social” media lately. Love following your tweets and posts…you are doing a fabulous job.

  34. 28th July 2018 / 6:30 am

    This is the side I don’t enjoy of blogging, luckily I haven’t come across too much and when I do I don’t tend to take part. The RT was bad, we run an account and haven’t had any negative comments luckily. But a lovely girl who works hard did have comments and DMs and they were awful. Same issue with trolling, I am also nice and it is hard to see why others have to get so nasty. Great post Ruth x

  35. 28th July 2018 / 1:01 pm

    Ive been blogging one whole week. I didn’t know there was an ugly side to blogging and I still haven’t figured out how RT blog accounts work. Thanks for this piece I found it really helpful XX

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      28th July 2018 / 7:26 pm

      No problem. I’m three months in, and only just witnessed it firsthand, but I hope you never do! 🙂

  36. 28th July 2018 / 1:28 pm

    I love your blog, Ruth. 🙂
    Whenever I visit your site, I always come away feeling cherished and connected.

    There are negative people out there, it’s true, but you can’t ever let them take away your sunshine. Your posts give me strength. You’re one of the kindest people I’ve seen online (and in my entire life for that matter) and I hope to be as kind and as passionate about my blog as you.

    Also, I absolutely adore the style of your blog. ^_^ xx

    • ruthinrevolt
      Author
      28th July 2018 / 7:25 pm

      This made me smile from ear to ear, thank you so much.

  37. 29th July 2018 / 12:09 am

    Hi Ruth, thanks so much for sharing this post, and especially sticking up for all of our awesome RT accounts and blogging supporters. I’m with you – I continue to be amazed by all the love and support and kindness and extra love that shows up all around us as a community. I feel sad for those who can’t embrace this love as what it is: selfless and genuine. I do truly feel like we are “all in this together”. That may make me naive or foolish, but if it does, that’s how I want to be known! And you go, girl. You’re an inspiration for all of us.
    Sincerely,
    Joan Senio
    kindness-compassion-and-coaching.com

  38. 29th July 2018 / 12:10 am

    I’m sorry this happened! That just sucks so hard! But it’s a reflection on the self esteem of the people that have done that, rather than who you are. Although you don’t need me to tell you that. It’s such a shame that people can get so nasty. The only person you should truly compete with is yourself if you want to improve. Anything else is just motivation. Bitterness is just not a good 2018 look! Haha! Also fair play to your handeling of a crappy situation. You’ve kept your integrity intact!

  39. 29th July 2018 / 11:44 am

    There’s always going to be someone to try and make you feel bad about the thing you like doing. It’s none of their business, so pay them no mind.
    I love the cat photo as well!

  40. 29th July 2018 / 11:48 am

    This is such a good post, blogging is so much harder these days because there is so many of us out there nowadays! I always try RT posts, comment on blogs or whatever, but it is difficult. The blogging community is amazing to be apart of, apart from a few that bring the side down.

    Dena Jayne | http://www.thedenaedit.com

  41. 30th July 2018 / 12:57 am

    Say whaaaaat? People actually accused you of faking a mental illness and demanding justification from you on your popularity? That is just…absurd and unnecessary. You promote such positivity and create content that many have found helpful. I’m sorry you had to experience this =\

  42. 30th July 2018 / 11:53 am

    Very well said!

    I will admit it, I have had moments of being jealous of your success…because it is amazing! But I make a personal choice to learn from you rather than let it influence how I treat you! I have way too many things in my chronic illness that consumes my energy to allow jealousy to take up one single ounce!

    Thank you for being who you are! I need rays of sunshine in my life!

  43. 1st August 2018 / 2:32 am

    There is so much hate in the world today and it’s so sad to me that we can’t just all support each other. That old adage “you get more bees with honey then vinegar” is annoying but true. Being nice to people can’t hurt you.

  44. 4th August 2018 / 6:04 am

    Yes yes yes! I love the mantra of ‘you got back what you are’ – rise above, be nice, and be everything else you want to be. We are and should be a team first and foremost. It’s a big world out there and there’s room for everyone -let’s all just keep sharing and supporting x

  45. 4th August 2018 / 8:59 am

    It’s really nice to read your insight on this. You sound completely genuine and the message is clear. Just be kind (and genuine). I think this applies to anything that one does in life. The world and this community becomes a better place if we are simply kind to one another. Hopefully your message will reach all of us and change a part of the bad to be better

  46. 6th August 2018 / 9:27 pm

    I’ve come across this at just the right time with all the blogger drama going on recently. I agree that it’s easy to get jealous or feel put out when you see other getting great opportunites, or feel let down a bit if you tag a bunch of RT accounts and none respond, but like you said, in every scenario there is a person behind that blog or account that has feelings just like the rest of us.
    I have no time for hate in a world where we rely so heavily on each other for success. It doesn’t take 2 seconds to be nice; it takes effort to be nasty.

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